Meeting people is tough, here is a guide:
Enjoy and embrace the rejection. It makes for a good story. Seriously. Laugh about it. Remember it.
Give. What are you bringing to the people you are trying to befriend. How are you making their lives better. Look at before they hang out with you and after, are they better off, or did you just make them super bored. Did they learn from you, laugh because of you etc... Look at their perspective, what are you bringing to them that no one else can bring them.
It's a numbers game. We're talking cold hard stats here. Like Money ball. This isn't your one hit wonder. You're not just going to meet one person and make a group of friends from nothing. Get out there and tally up some numbers. Triple digits.
Make your group. Don't try to assimilate yourself into an already formed group. They will already have their inside jokes, their memories, etc. Very...very difficult to infiltrate. You will be much happier starting from one person (you) and building around you. Bring people of different backgrounds together, now you are the people linker.
Join meetups. Why? because people are always going to those events on their own. They are there just like you to meet people that are like minded. Running club, acting club, public speaking class,
or local bar(maybe not a good idea).
Alcohol. Sometimes a bit of alcohol helps to get the juices flowing. Not too much though, because you need to stick to the plan.
3 second rule. You see someone you want to befriend, and you count to 3 and you start the conversation. any longer than 3 seconds and you are building up an awkward situation. Don't let it happen. once the 3 seconds are up, you lost. no going back.
Try out all the
different strategies. Think radically different. If you are shy, learn some lines ahead of time and just recite the script. Don't even think about it.
Be ready to learn. You mess up... you never make that mistake again. Never. If you do, then you aren't learning and you will get nowhere. Remember some philosopher once said "the hardest part about learning is unlearning." Habits are hard to break. Learn 1% every day and guaranteed in 100 days you will be a 100% expert.
Don't give up. It's tiring to make friends. You will get so many rejections. But who cares.
Think like a kid. Stop thinking like an adult. Get all the social norms, status quo, and rules out of your head. When you were a kid, you just went up to strangers and told them what you thought. Don't think too much before you talk, just go. Like an excited kid, you don't give a shit. If you give a shit, you will lose.
You have nothing to lose. Remember that you will only gain from this experience!
Key Terms:
Snowball effect
Numbers game
3 second rule
